I’m going to talk about overcoming fear today and there’s a reason why I choose that - because I don’t like whiners. Whiners are irritating and energy-sucking. And if you drill deep inside, it’s really not their fault, it’s because they don’t have fear inside them to overcome their problems. That’s why they whine.

In my opinion, fearful thought is a disease!  It comes largely from distorted mental habits. You see, our mind is consistently dwelling upon thoughts of doubt, failure, and inefficiency - that’s just how our brain functions. And this leads to many kinds of fear like fear of poverty, darkness, ridicule, microbes, insomnia, dogs, lightning, burglars, cold, solitude, marriage, Friday, lawyers, death, thirteen, accident, and ghosts and most importantly for our discussion, fear of failure.

At the same time, it’s not wrong that one should fear, however, when it’s not being acknowledged, it weakens the personal character.

Here’s an interesting research…

Thousands of people when asked can say truthfully, “I have all my life feared things that never happened.”

It means that, WHATEVER YOU HAVE FEARED COULD BE JUST AN ILLUSION.

Indecision is another frequent cause of the fear. People hesitate to take a step one way or the other for fear that they might do the wrong thing, and this spirit of irresolution and hesitation often leads them into the very mistakes they would avoid. It’s like a man on a bicycle, endeavoring to steer clear of an obstruction on the road, but all the while keeping his eye fastened upon it so that a collision is inevitable.  There is nothing more disastrous to success than lack of purpose. If you give an impression that you are afraid, you will elbowed aside and imposed upon at almost every turn.

Personal experience:

I was in a casino last week and I was playing Baccarat. And if you have played before, you would know that it has nothing to do with skill. After start playing for a while, I’ve started losing my bet and a negative thought caught my mind - I lost confidence and fear of losing again. And you can guess what happened, I lost all of my chips after that. How did that happened? How did I end up playing on the wrong bet all of the time after that? It’s unexplainable, it’s what I meant by ‘attraction’.

When you have fear inside you, it frequently attracts what you don’t want.

How to overcome fear?

Well, be fearless. Develop self confidence in yourself.

The development of self-confidence begins with your own intelligent self-examination. The mind must be closely scrutinized, undesirable tendencies checked; faults eradicated, and correct habits of thought and conduct firmly established.

Sounds complex right? In a nutshell, you have to be strong in your mind to pull this off.

And good news is, confidence breeds confidence! The building of self-confidence is not difficult, but it requires patience and intelligent effort. There should be no straining, no anxiety, and no haste. Get it going and your self-confident will naturally ‘grows’.
 
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We shouldn’t apologize to ourselves (of course unless you’ve done something really wrong). We should be too big for that little habit of making excuses.  Depreciation of yourself, self-pity and so on, never won a single battle of life. It has, on the contrary, killed ambition, weakened the will, and incapacitated thousands of men for noble work. That is why I hate whiners so much.

Suppose you put these practical questions to yourself: Does negative thinking pay? 

Is it desirable for me to encourage thoughts in my mind that break down, hinder, and incapacitate me for good work? 

Do I want negative thoughts that inevitably bring discontent and unhappiness?

Your answer will be, of course, that you don’t want them. But such thoughts work insidiously, and will find an entrance into your mind if you’re not extremely vigilant. The surest way to keep them out, however, is to fill the mind completely with vital positive thoughts, to think constantly of yourself as a person of unlimited possibilities, growing daily in mental and spiritual power AND STOP WHINING why your life is not the way you want it to be.

Realize that no weak-hearted, intermittent efforts will achieve your desired purpose. Hold in your mind the supreme assurance that you can and will achieve this indispensable power, and your reward for your energy and perseverance will be great!

Feel free to leave your comment. Thanks.

Patric Chan