Grandma Passed Away Peacefully
October 19, 2009 by admin
My beloved Grandma passed away peacefully this morning at 5.00 AM. She was healthy as usual yesterday and she got unconscious at about 2.00 AM and a few hours later, she has gone “asleep”.
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(This is the music that I play when I’m writing this, if you play it, you’ll know my feeling when I’m writing)
Letter to Grandma…
“Hi Grandma,
By the time I wrote this, you’re already on your journey to Heaven. As silly as it sounds, I want to tell you not to be anxious if no one’s holding your hand because when you reach Heaven, you’ll be ready. I know you’re used to having someone holding your warm hand.
I always remember how happy you are waiting at the porch for me to pick you up to go out for a walk, lunch or catch a movie. You’ll always bring a sweater along, just in case if you get cold and don’t want that to spoil your outing.
And you’ll wear the black color Croc sandal I bought for you last year. Although it’s tight recently, you still want to wear it because of how much you love it.
I always remember how happy you are when you’re eating your favorite food - that, you like to taste all kinds of food and share it with us. You never eat alone, you always ask me to eat with you.
I always remember how much you like taking pictures - and then if you don’t look good in it, you’ll “complain”. :-) And you always like to wear bright colors.
I always remember when I drop you back home after a fun day, you’ll say, ‘thank you’ many times to my wife and me because you really appreciate the time we’re together. And you’ll ask softly, “When will I see you again?” and looking forward for another outing even if it’s a month later. God, I miss that moment.
I can remember how happy you are when you hold Marin, my baby girl, in your hand. Your face glitters with happiness, she likes smiling to you too.
I can remember that once in a while, you’ll call me on my cell phone when you miss me too much- that you keep my phone number in your notepad, somewhere stuff in your messy drawer. I wish you’ve called me again last week.
I also know how much you love my wife and baby and they love you too. Sometimes, you forget my wife’s name but you’ll always ask me how is she doing.
Grandma,
Today you look so beautiful and peaceful. I spoke to you, I know you can’t say anything back because you’re looking at me from above smiling - I told you that I will always love you as your grandchild and how much you mean to me. When I touch your hand today in your final bed, it’s cold but I know God has a better place for you now.
Today, I sit on the chair at the porch - the same chair that you always wait for me to come pick you up. When I look out to the road, I know the exact feeling of cheerfulness that you have at that moment of time.
Grandma, I want you to know that I’m not sad that you have to go – I guess I’m just missing the moments with you and talking with you like how we use to chat and laugh, especially since I haven’t seen you for a month now, until today. Today, our ‘outing’ was… a little bit different.
On another side, I’m blessed with my own family right now - Emily, my wife and Marin, my baby girl. Also, Mum and Dad are still here, I’m grateful for that.
Grandma, if you happen to see me crying once in a while from above, please don’t worry :-) - they’re all happy tears because you’re always close to my heart and live in my memory. Any grandson or anyone who miss their love ones in heaven would understand.”
Love,
Your grandson
________________________________________________________
March 17, 2009
Re: I Cried When She Doesn’t Recognize Me Anymore
LATEST UPDATE: Good news! Doctor said that it’s a mild stroke, not Alzheimer that affects her brain – it can be healed if Grandma’s strong. THANK YOU for being part of this ‘healing’. I believe, this might not happen if it wasn’t with your kind prayers.
(There were many grammar mistakes in the sharing below because I wrote this in a hurry last night. I was thinking to edit it today but I’ve decided to leave them as it is to remain who I am.)
It’s just so hard to start writing this because I don’t know where to begin.
I will write as what I heart wants to share, as what I experienced today.
The day, Tuesday 17 March 2009 starts as usual – until my Auntie called me on the phone, telling me that I have to see Grandma quick, something’s very wrong.
You see, if this is the first time you’re reading my blog, you might not get the whole story of my grandma – she’s the women that I love very much, the women who is strong at heart and the women who gave me the unconditional love that I could ever dream of.
I wrote about her 5 years ago – the story of what is meaningful in our life. If you like to read that, click here. Once read, you will understand how I feel today.
I was prepared to accept anything but in truth, I wasn’t prepared for anything.
Uncles, aunties and cousins were all there – at Grandma’s house.
That’s Grandma when she’s 80, 5 years ago – today she’s 85.
I went to see Grandma, smile at her as usual and talk to her but she replied, ‘I couldn’t sleep’.
I thought it was still normal because she always says that to me so that I’ll show my care but then she said, ‘Who are you?’, I don’t know what to think. She is the same Grandma who took me to shopping malls to buy toys when she has no money, bring me to McDonald’s to spoil me when I was a kid, love me unconditionally and the same women that I love with all my heart – couldn’t remember me anymore. Couldn’t even call my name.
At that time, I know I ‘lost’ her.
I look into her eyes, touch her cheek gently and ask her again – “Do you know me?” I can tell she’s trying very hard but she can’t answer me.
I started crying. Tears were coming down but I try to be strong. Grandma didn’t even know why I’m crying but she wipes the tears off my cheek with her hanky and still giving me the same caring Grandma smile – the same one that I always look forward to see when I meet her.
I hold her hand and try to talk to her again – “Grandma, remember last week when you visited me at my house, you told me your birthday is coming next week? That you were all excited about the celebration, that I’ll buy you a gift?”
She was wearing my gift for her birthday last year, the bracelet she wears everyday with happiness and pride – a bracelet that is carved with the design of leaf. I remembered that was the best gift she’s ever gotten from me, she’ll always tell me how much she loves the bracelet and tell all our relatives about it, bragging about it – how much I love her.
Now, she can’t even remember her birthday’s next week.
She says things that are not real like, “I cannot see” when her eyes is still open and seeing things.
She doesn’t remember where the bracelet comes from – she keeps on asking innocently me, “Do you know who put this bracelet on my hand?”
She was all fine a few days ago but I think I’ve lose her to Alzheimer. But I won’t quit even I cannot win – I’ll still be by my Grandma’s side until God thinks it’s time. She’s now in her own world, a happy nor sad world – a world that doesn’t represents anything but time will keeps on going by. I know she likes to eat a lot of stuff, I’ll still take her if she wants, although she couldn’t appreciate it anymore, or even enjoy eating. She is my loving, only Grandma.
This is the latest picture that I have with Grandma in January 2009 when she’s 85.
Yes, her eyes and mouth are slightly disoriented because she was hit with another “illless” last year but her spirit for living in this world is bigger – she strived and was back in the game of life. But this time, I guess, luck wasn’t on our side.
Grandma enjoys taking pictures – she always asks us to take her pictures everytime we can. Now I know why, she enjoys seeing them and keeping the wonderful memory she experienced, the joy and happiness. But now, I don’t think she remembers anything but I’m sure I’ll find a stack of photos she kept in her room one day.
You see, in life, we cannot prevent unwanted things to happen. You sure can do everything but there’s no guarantee it won’t happen. There are people who never smoke in their life before but still get cancer. There are people who exercise, live a healthy diet and yet died of heart attack. There are people like my Grandma – who we showered all of the love we can, give her the best nutrition we can afford, live a healthy diet and pamper her with the things she wants – and yet, ugly shit still creeps into her life.
But what you can do is cherish what you have, TODAY.
Do you cherish every moment in your life and your love ones, starting from the time you wake up in the morning?
Do you do give the best you can, EVERY DAY so that you can look back say, “I’ve done all I can”.
And finally, did you touch someone’s life today so that you won’t regret anything missing?
From today’s onwards, I make a vow that I’ll make AT LEAST a person happy so that I will look back and say, ‘I have contribute to create happiness today and someone is smiling’.
Last but not least – do you say prayers? If you don’t, that’s okay but if you do – I have a big favor to ask from you and I hope you’ll do this for me because you once have a Grandma too. Would you please say your prayer tonight before you go to sleep, that you’ll wish Grandma will be okay soon? That’s all I ask for.
- Patric
*A grandson who misses his Grandma very much*
This entire sharing is 100% true experience – exactly what happened to me today. It’s written so that I get the chance to tell the world how much she means to it. It is also, as a reminder to everyone who reads it that, life is short. Make full use of it especially making yourself and your love ones happy – be it your Mum, Dad, son, daughter, wife, husband, Grandpa, Grandma and so on. Don’t forget that age pass by very fast so don’t make the mistake of chasing wealth but end up spending it alone. Feel free to share what you read with anyone who you think would appreciate what you read today. – www.whenwealthmeansnothing.com
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Hi Patric,
Alzheimer\’s or dementia can be a cruel progressive illness for both the sufferer and the family – my father has Alzheimer\’s so I know a little of what you are going through (he\’s 88). However there are things that can be done to improve the memory of sufferers – I wrote a book on it – and if you would like to discuss any of these just contact me via the above email.
Wishing you all the best,
Steffan
http://www.alzheimersalternative.com
Sorry about your Grandma
Very moving and touching story
Best wishes
Nigel
Hi Patric,
I\’m so sorry for your grandma.
As you said, don\’t quit but who know, you might be win as well.
I\’ll give my prayer for you tonight.
Take care,
Seree W.
Hi Patric,
I wish your grandma to be okay and healthy soon.
May all the strength be with you.
Raymond Chua
Patric – You are fortunate to have the good memories. In my case, Alzheimers brought a strange gift when it struck my father. We never had a close relationship, and I never felt he liked me, although he was a good provider to his family. Yet with the advent of the disease, for the last two years of his life, his eyes and whole face lit up with smiles when I entered the room. In the past, he would barely look up from the TV when I walked in. Yet those two years – sunshine. Strange the gifts we get. We can be thankful for them all and for the healing they bring.
I wish your Grandma a speedy recovery.
Khoa Bui
Dear Patric,
I know how hard this must be for you. My grandmother has been showing small signs of dementia for a couple of years now. She will be 105 yr old in June. But the hard part is we live 500 miles away and I haven\’t seen for for over a year.
Spend as much time as you can with your grandmother regardless of what her mind is thinking. Her spirit will always know it is you.
I am a Christian, so of course I do pray. I will be praying God\’s peace, His blessings and His will for you and your family.
Warmest regards,
Mellisa McJunkin
Dear Mr. Chan,
I sorry for your loss, hope you feel better soon
Hussein
Hi Patric – I empathize with you. I was devastated when I lost my Grandmother even though she was 98…but the real reason I am writing is because there is a serious body of research being done by Dr.Alan MacDonald at St. Catherine of Siena (http://stcatherines.chsli.org/research.htm) that links Lyme spirochetes to Alzheimer\’s. It is very new research and if you are interested in exploring that please email me. Dr. MacDonald cured a woman who was bedridden and couldn’t even talk to normalcy in 30 days with IV Rocephin! Please feel free to email me if you would like more info.
God bless – Jenna
I can\’t help but to shed tear while reading your post.
I know why it mean a lot. My mum is old too, and I can\’t bear it if the same thing you\’ve faced today were to fall upon me.
I pray for her, whatever it\’ll turn out to be.
And as for you, take great care! There are still many who loves you unconditionally, and I\’m sure they can\’t bear it to see you grief either.
God will heal your Grandma you are a great man. In Jesus name let your Grandma recieve her healing right now,Amen.
Patric,
It is better that you share it.
I am very sorry to hear about your Grandmum. I understand what you are going through because I lost my Grandad. He suffered a stroke and it had a similiar effect on his memory. I loved him very much and still cry over thirty years later because I couldn\’t save him – even with everything I knew, and I thought that was a lot.
It took me a while – many years – to accept that, while I could literally move mountains in MY world and only chuckle at anyone suggesting there was something I couldn\’t do, when it came to changing someone ELSE\’S world, it was a different matter altogether. I learnt too late that this takes a different type of thinking.
You will only be at peace when you know in your heart that you are doing you can to ease her suffering. This is the only question you need ask yourself.
Be strong, my young friend – and give thanks to the powers upstairs for limiting her suffering to just not remembering you – it could be lot worse.
If you need to talk, we are always here for you.
In Love and Light,
Best wishes to you and your Nan,
Your Friends,
Michael & Hitomi
Dear Patric,
Sorry to hear this. Jia you~
Stay positive, stay strong and we are all behind you…..
Warmest Regards,
Portia
Dear Patric,
Sorry to hear this. Stay strong & positive. We are all behind you. Jia you~
Regards,
Portia
Dear Patric
I am so sorry to hear about your Grandma. But what a loving family she seems to have around her.
I will definitely say a prayer for her. This sounds as if it is her last challenge before she leaves. Try and be at ease with what\’s happening. Just because our body\’s wear out doesn\’t mean our spirits do.
Kind regards
Jenny Sherrell
Dear Patric,
I deeply share your feelings. I have lost my grandma many many years back. You pulled me to that memories. To day it is almost 30 years after she passed away when she was 89. Even though she had more than 15 grandkids, she was loving me the most. Definitly I was sharing the same feeling to her. She was very special for me as well. She was so nice and loving lady. I was sharing my bedroom together with her due to her age and needs. She woke up in the middle of the night and asked me to take her to the restroom. And that was her last wish. She was just passed away in my arms when the times came. To day I remember her with good memories all the time.
There is gods wish for everybody in the world. We wouldn’t know what could happen to us. It is called faith. I strongly believe that. But be strong and always keep good memories with you regarding her and your relationship with her. Her soul will always be with you when you are in trouble, believe me.
May god gives her peace, painless life till to the end and strength to you. I will pray for her. Take care Patric.
Ali Engin Senyuva
Hi Patric,
Sorry to hear what\\\’s happening to your Grandma. But take heart that though she cannot express recognition of certain things, the memories of the love of the family will always still be in her mind. So keep showering her with love and never lose heart.
Will keep her in my prayers.
Warm Regards,
Paul Pang
hey Bro,
Then your light shall break forth like the dawn,
and healing shall spring up quickly.
Isaiah 58:8
Who his own self bore our sins in his body on the tree, that
we, being dead to sin, should live unto righteousness, by
whose stripes we were healed.
I Peter 2:24
He sent his word, and healed them, and
delivered them from their destructions.
Psalm 107:20
Daughter your faith has made you well, go in peace,
And be Healed of your disease.
Mark 5:34
Whatever you ask for in Prayer with faith you will receive.
Matthew 21:22
And said, If thou wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the
Lord thy God, and wilt do that which is right in his sight,
and wilt give ear to his commandments, and keep all his statutes,
I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have
brought upon the Eqyptians: for I am the Lord that healeth thee.
Exdous 15:26
Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases.
Psalm 103:3
My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings.
Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst
of thine heart. For they are life unto those that find them
and health to all their flesh.
Proverbs 4:20-22
But he was wounded for our transgressions he was bruised
for our iniquities; the chastisement of our peace was upon him;
and with his stripes we are healed.
Isaiah 53:5
Heal me, O Lord and I shall be healed; save me,
and I shall be saved; for thou art my praise.
Jeremiah 17:14
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Hi Patric,
So sorry about your Granma.
It\\\’s a very cruel disease to everyone concerned.
Words of comfort are hard to suggest.
I can only say that your Gran is definitely still there, somewhere, and she WILL realise the love you have for her.
My thoughts & prayers are with you and your Granma.
Philip
Hi Patric,
Even though she did not recongise you, she wiped away your tears.
Think about this : she asked YOU if you knew who gave her the bracelet? At the back of her mind, she has made the connection.
Please postpone the coaching call on 18 March and spend the time with her. Share your most treasured moments with her, I’m sure she will like that. Let you happiness rub off on her.
I will pray for her and for you. You take care, OK?
Jonathan
Dear Patric,
My prayers to you… Couldn’t bear to imagine the day this will happen to me… It’s not easy, but you “Chan” do it… Don’t forget that…
-SaM
God bless you and your grandmother, Patric. Just know that even when she is no longer with you here physically, she will ALWAYS be with you in spirit.
I will be saying prayers for both of you.
With love & light,
~Kelly
Dallas, TX
I am sorry to hear that about your grandmother. I went through that with my wifes mother. I will pray for her and you as well as your family.
God Bless All Of You.
Floyd
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SMILE
Wear green today.
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Hello Patric,
Sorry to read about your grandma. May the LORD be with her. My prayers for her.
Kind regards,
Shawn Peter
Hi Patric,
My heart is with you today, too, and I will meditate with good thoughts for your Grandma and for you. My father had many strokes and lost his ability to recognize his family, but like Pam\\\’s father, it changed him in some positive ways and he became more loving, though he wasn\\\’t sure who we were. He has passed now, but that\\\’s the dad we prefer to remember.
Your Grandma sounds like a very loving person, and though it seems she can\\\’t remember you, I\\\’m sure she does, and just can\\\’t express the words anymore.
Be at peace, as life progresses through all the necessary phases that we have little or no control over. And you will have your memories to nourish your soul in the coming years, too.
You are in my heart tonight,
Roberta
Hi Patric,
Sorry to hear about your grandma
Everthing is changing and god blessing
Best regards,
Vongvilay
Hi all,
I want to thank-you from my heart, for showing your concern and care. I read every single post and appreciate your words very much.
Some of you, who I know personally – thanks again.
Sometimes, when you share your sadness, you’ll feel less sad knowing that others are there to ’support’ you in one shape or another.
I will remain http://www.whenwealthmeansnothing.com as a dedication to all of the folks who have somehow no longer present with us physically or mentally (but not spiritually) – thank you for once being with us.
Thank you.
Patric Chan
P.S: We still have hope for Grandma. She’s seeing the doctors now and I’ll be exploring the advice given from the commments here later on.
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Hey Pat,
I fear that my mom will one day be like this… and that\’s my worst nightmare… you are very brave you have this shared.
But I am sure although she doesn\’t remember you, it doesn\’t mean the moment shared never existed.
I\’m having you and her in my prayer tonight =)
Your friend,
Phoebe
Hi Patric
Im sorry to learn of your Grans dementia. I understand and empathise with your grief. My mum has had dementia for nearly 6 years and it gets gradually worse. Now she knows that she knows me but doesnt know who I am. Sometimes I am her brother. She never had a brother!
What I do and it seems to initiate a response is to talk to her of her younger days and show her photos of herself and family and sometimes (hit and miss) she lights up with a memory. Its wonderful when that happens, so dont give up as many have said on this blog, while she is alive there will be parts of her brain working, you just need to try and get an occasional connection!
What gives me some solace and you must realise that the person with Alzheimers is often quite relaxed (not always)doesnt really know or cant express that they are ill. The person who suffers most is the person who knows the victim well. We have to carry the burden of the worry for them.
I feel very angry about this disease, and really it is not recognised in the same way as coronary or cancer illnesses are. More needs to be done to research and find a cure as well as making it more widely understood.
When you have settled into this new world you have found yourself in I am wondering if using your skills on the internet we could together try and get some movement worldwide in trying to eradicate this dementia? Let me know.
Take care of her.
Bob
Hi Patric,
I can totally relate to this news… my granny is in the same situation and besides the fact that she doesnt recognise us, she forgets her meals and now she is hardly the strong, healthy and high energy robust lady..
Nonetheless… I agree fully with what you have written here :
” But what you can do is cherish what you have, TODAY.
Do you cherish every moment in your life and your love ones, starting from the time you wake up in the morning?
Do you do give the best you can, EVERY DAY so that you can look back say, “I’ve done all I can”. ”
These 3 statements perfectly echoed my heart’s sentiments.
I guess what we can do now is to cherish and treasure every moment with our loved ones…
Keep the faith and be strong.
God Bless
Darren
Patrick,
Prayers go out to your and your family. Contact me offline and I can share with you simple writing exercises your grandma can do to strengthen her mental faculties and focus because they help.
Here is to science finding a cure sooner than later.
Regards and well wishes,
Joseph Zarek, FDE, HE, SA
hello Patric. You have touched me today. I pray for your grandmother.She is so privileged to be alive in this world at this time. See, I have a mother who is 86 years, all by the grace and mercy of Almighty God.I try to visit her everyday, I sit close to her where she feels comforted and massage her back while sitting with her.She grabs hold og my right thigh and would not let go of it. She still has all her faculties in tact thank God,but her memory is playing tricks these days. She is so comforting to me.
In islam, we are told that when a servant of God Almighty attains 40 years of age, God Almighty lightens his account.
When he attains 60 years of age, God Almighty blesses him with turning to him.
When he attains 70 years of age, the inhabitants of heaven come to love him.
When he attains 80 years of age, God Almighty establishes his good deeds and erases his bad deeds.
And when he attains 90 years of age, God Almighty forgive his past and future sins and grants him intercession for his family, and he is recorded in the heavens as the captive of God Almighty on His(GOD\\\’S) earth.
Know that everything which happened, is happening and will happen is according to the knowledge, will and command of Almighty God.
One who has understood and accepted this concept of fate will not be overcome with frustration at the delay in the passing of whatever trial we are undergoing. He will not become despondent and lose hope when the misfortune endures for any length of time.He will banish weakness.
Thank you for this opportunity.
Hi Patric,
Thanks for your reminder. There are lots of times where petty things stood in the way of a wonderful relationship. And these are the events that reminds us to look beyond to see what is truly important.
May your Grandma be blessed with a speedy recovery. Thank you for sharing your story.
Dear Patric,
It was so sad to hear of this.. Alzheimer is bad, bad disease.. My mom’s grandma had it, and it was terrible to see how it affected to brains. I know how and why it comes; would be a relief if someone finally achieves how to repair, or even prevent Alzheimer.
Good to hear it isn\’t too bad – God heard our prayers!
Will God bless you and your family, and will God bless your grandma and give strength to you all.
My family’s health is not the best – my sister has hard depression, and my mother has too many diseases for one human, and she’s only 42..
We have to survive and believe to the End.
Dear Patric,
My heart goes out to you. I shall pray for your Granma each day in my daily prayers. She is old and God will take her when He wills. But we should always pray each day for each other as one never knows what may happen. I shall pray that she gets well.
I have given my life to looking after my folks and now my sister who had a stroke. I told God for years I can’t take anymore of this lonely life with no friends shuffling around the house all day preparing meals and living with a zombie.
Well I have good news. Just this last year my sister has been transformed from a zombie to a much more normal person, her memory has improved and she now laughs and I can see that Gods Grace is working in her. She still has a long way to go but she is improving.
I’ve always liked you Patric. We have lived for 10 years with a help from a convent, but its been tough and still is.
I pray every day to God to make some money to buy a house and be able to go out.
I’m 54 now and am looking forward to the new life with Jesus Christ in heaven which is our true home for ALL of us whether we are black or white, christian or other religion.
My health is poor so I know what illness is like as I’ve been ill since 1993.
When you cannot do the things that others take for granted thats when God is closest to us.
If you ever want a chat with me do phone me anytime
I’m in Kelso Scotland and can be reached at (44)01573440262.
Lots of Love to you and your Granma Patric
May God Bless your family
Stuart
Patric,Sorry so sad,read this,I try very hard to live by this.
Thanks for thinking enough of me to add me as a friend,to give all a little insite into what kind of person I am heres a copy of an email I sent to my list not long ago
Life is so hard some days.We go through days and never really see the day.
When things get hard,confusing,or just plain miserable…..STOP!!!
Look around,understand that if you woke up, you can change you life or luck.
Enjoy the sun,the clouds,or maybe the rain/snow.Think of how much you have.
Today you are here(where ever that may be)and YOU can change your life in a minute.
Smell a flower,hug a child,give an elderly person one minute of your time.Do something for someone who doesn\’t know you, just to be nice.
Smile,..Most people will smile even if they don\’t want to.
Smiles are contagous
Please try to enjoy your day ad share the Smile.It will warm your heart ad all around you will feel the warmth.
It takes much less energy to smile,than to frown, and its much more fun.
Thanks for reading Don Stephens / fastcarracer36
I can understand how you feel, my grandmother was in the exact same situation about ten years ago and she has since passed away three winters ago.
I think something can be done, perhaps we can start a fund raising for people or families with this ailment and raise awareness of the support needed to treat this illness.
Hi Patric
Good to hear the hopeful news about your Grandma.
So many of us around the world listening to the music with you, thinking of you and your family.
Best wishes to you all.
James
I pray for you and your grandma, hope everything will be o.k!
Hi Patric,
I\\\’m very sorry to hear about your grandma.My sister in-law suffered a stroke and it has a similar effect on her memory and both eyes , she even cannot see and walk properly. After more than a years of treatment with Chinese doctor(zhong Yi),she could remember the thing which i almost forget 20 years ago.
I\\\’m a buddhist(Tzu Chi member),so coincidence tomorrow Tzu Chi will have Three- in- one celebration, themed as \\
thank you day…
hello Patrick,
I just read my email by now and also read the story of your grandma… Don’t worry, God’s angels are always in her side…
thank you for the hope and for the unconditional love and care you give not only to your grndma but to me too as i read the story… i said this beacuase i feel the same way as you are feeling towards your grandma but unlike me, i am experiencing this towards my friend… and i call her, star.I thank, really the Lord when i met star because she had thought me almost everything about life.. many would say that im childish, yeah its true and ignorant about the so called life. But Star put me out from my shell and help me find muself in the world of reality.. we had so many happy memories together, believing that i couldn’t live without her by myside.. i mean, we become closer, closer that no one could ever imagine.. she’s the best friend that i ever had…
Life is really unpredicatable, i just don’t know the real reasons and i don’t know what happened because everything went worst. We always quarrel, insult, and even cursed each other.. we don’t understand each other anymore and don’t even want to listen… just a monty ago that she had her coma… and now, she couldn’t even recognize me… i felt so sad worst when she almost gain her memories and to find out that she doesn’t even want to see me… i feel so guilty of what happen to her.. but i don’t know what to do…my friends are telling me not to care and even forget about her but my heart would not agree.. i want to help her but i feel she doesn’t want to… i really don’t know what to do.. please give me an advice… thank you so much patrick…
thank you so much.
waiting,
…mj…
Dear Patric,
I really sorry to hear about your granma’s disease.
But I do believe that the big hearted people’s great love and care can create miracles. We all pray for your grandma.
Hoping to get good news soon. With love and peace.
Sibel
Hello Patric,
I read ur grandma sorry,i am so.The good lord will give u more grace to continue in life.
Deepest condolence to Patric and Family. RIP Grandma, without you , we wouldn’t have such a good instructor/coach like Patric.
Hi Patric,
It’s a sad moment… but take heart that your grandmum has enjoyed
every moment of her life with you…
Take care!
Yew Heng
Dear Friend, (I hope that you are not offended as we do not know each other)
I am so sorry for your loss. I do know how you feel. In one year I lost a mother, a mother-in-law, and a daughter. It is a terrible feeling yet you go on because that is what they would have wanted. I, like you was close also with my grandmother and she did not know any one when we went to visit her, that was tough times. But as I was told it is a natural thing when it is your time to go you go where you are called and that is to heaven. She is in a much better place now.
I hope you and your family handle all the problems just fine.
Your letter had me crying for your lost because it brought back all the great and fine memories that I had of my grandmother.
Your a young man I am nothing but an old goat (55). You have a great life in front of you with that baby girl, so be strong and help all those that have lost also.
God Bless you and yours
Sincerely:
Charles and Katherine Hill
ChillinEnterprise.com
Dear Patric,
I wish that you ever feel the love your grandma has given to you when your thought are with her. You\"ll never forget how kind and beautiful she was and this will always be a part of you. Be grateful for the time with her and therefor that you are who you are wile she was with you and what she has given to you. When you feel the pain think what she would say to you in this moment – and then you feel better – you\’ll see.
She is with you – only a thought away.
Viola
My deepest condolences to you Patric. I know how you really cherished her. I certainly believed that you made her feel loved when she is still alive and certainly proud to be your grandma.
Patric,
You have been blessed to know your grandma. She looks to be a wonderful woman. And you will carry her with you forever, because of the wonderful times and memories you have. There will be days when you\’ll miss her much. Those days, pull out one of those pictures and look into those eyes…you\’ll see the twinkle and the smile and you\’ll know that all will be ok.
She is smiling down on you and your entire family. Go forth in the warmth of her smile.
Julia
Patric,
The letter to your grandmother is very touching. I could feel much emotion in my heart. I know you will always carry her in your heart and will continue to do good in the world in her memory.
Our prayers are with you and your family. Your Grandma is a good place now.
Sylvia
Dear Patric,
Sorry to hear about your grandmother. My heart-felt and deepest condolence goes to you and your family. Your grandmother will no doubt be really missed by all those who love her but knowing that she has gone to a better place & be watching over you and your family from heaven above.
God Bless!
Cindy
Mr. Patric: my sincere compliments in this difficult times. God give peace to your heart and mind.
Thank U Patric for help me in my star up.
Hi Patric,
I am sorry to hear about it..
May your grandma rest in peace..
May you be stay strong and take care..!
I am happy for your grandmother.Where she is going is beyond the life of this world. It’s another existence. She is now spared the trials of this world. Rest in peace. may God Almighty forgive her and have mercy on her.
N>B> my mother of 83 passed on ,on 28 aug 2009 at 7:35 a.m.. I knew her for 52 years.
Thank you patric. Her life in this world has ended. It’s our turn now to live a better life
Patric, I find comfort in my mother’s passing by doing the things that she taught me.Thank you.
Sad to hear your grandma passed away. May the other angels always take best of care your auntie in her journey at the beautiful world of spirits in the afterlife. I`m sure she is now most dedicated Guardian angels of yours Patric. Keep up the magnificent work my friend and continue making your grandma and others proud. Always gently live your purpose. I know you always will:)
Best wishes!
Max
Dear Patric,
Sorry to hear the passing of your Grandma. My prayers are with you and your family.
May Almighty God welcome her into the eternal joy of heaven.
Peace be with you.
Simon Chan
Dear Patric,
I would like to say that you are one of those people that I feel lucky to have met in this short time that we have on Earth. The first time we meet in Dubai, you talk about how lucky you had been to travel around the World with your Wife buy your side.
Then when you first talked about you Grandma, I could feel the very special Love you both had for each other. She is part of you and has helped made you the great person that you are.
This is why you are a very genuine person that a lot of us have chosen to follow, as you put your heart into anything that you do or advice you give us.
You and your family are in our hearts at this difficult time and send or Love to all from. Roger and Lacy.
Body decomposes but spirit is eternal.
Dear Patric,
My condolences for your loss, Patric…along with prayers that you and your family will be comforted through this time of transition.
It\’s wonderfully clear from your writings of her that your years have been abundantly blessed by your grandma\’s life, presence, and her unconditional love…now you will continue to be blessed by the closeness and presence of her spirit to your hearts of love for each other. Continue your talks to her…she will hear you and answer…and you will hear those answers in both your heart and mind…because now you\’ve been gifted with the \"Light of your Love and Memories\" of her to carry with your for the rest of your days, until you meet once again as spirits both.
Thank you for sharing that love with us all.
Grandma Passed Away Peacefully… My prayers to Grandma and also to Patric and family..
Hi Patric,
My condolence..
I might not be a rich guy like you but I have the same soft and caring heart almost similar to yours and I fully understand how you felt when you wrote your path of life with grandma.. I wish I had written one like you for my late grandparents, late father and also late brother.
Best wishes to you and your family..
From: Frankie
PS: I had just read “You Can Take Life for Granted” at http://www.patricchan.name/167/you-can-take-life-for-granted/ .. Thanks Patric
Dear Pat:
This world is a school or university, we all came here to study and learn what we have planned, this is a moment you should enjoy because your Granma was graduated and with HONORS. Observe that she didn’t suffer to die, she was living her life very wisly; she left this world because it was time for her to go. Our God had a job to be done in Heaven and He new it was her who could do it.
You were VERY NICE to her all her life, she did enjoy you as a child, it was GREAT for her to buy those toys for you (I, as an uncle, bough many toys for my sister’s sons and believe me I did enyoy doing it) you had many great days with her, you both did enjoy them don’t you? You don’t have to feel bad because you din’t saw her for a month, this wasn’t because you hate her, it was your work that keep you busy so you have not reason to suffer.
When we die, we leave our bodies and go in our astral body. We keep that body for about a week and during that time we are around all that people we loved. During all that time if you suffer and cry SHE is going to suffer because she loved you so stop that suffering and tell her nice things you know she is going to enjoy. You know she is around and nobody sees or listen her so if you call her she will be by your side inmedietly, make her happy and ejoy doing it. Ask her for any help you need, I don’t know how much she could help you but do it anyway. Ask God for help for her, tel HIM how nice she was with you. Instead of suffering hel her all you can.
Bless your heart Patric,,,I loved your letter to your Gram,,,,,,reminded me alot of my own Gramma\’s,,,I was so blessed as well, with very loving grandparents, we have so much to be thankful for, don\’t we,,,I really miss them, especially on the holidays,,,loved hanging out with my Gram\’s and with our families, those were the best days for sure, but many more wonderful blessings ahead for us as well,,,,,,,,take care my friend, Love, Happiness and Joy to you and your family,,,,,,,,,,,,cheerio from Teresa
Prayers of peace and comfort for you and your family
My prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family
Hi Patric… this is beautiful. I can tell you will really miss her. I’m touched by your vulnerability. You will be in my prayers and meditations!
Hi Patric:
Looking at your Grandma\’s picture, I can see that she was a sweet and wonderful woman. Gentle and kind – the best of Gandmas. I\’m sure you feel the gratitude and the blessings that God has given you by letting her be YOUR grandma.
Cherish the memories. Your Grandma will always be alive through the good that she has given and taught you.
Peace be upon you.
Rashidah
My thoughts and prayers are with you Mr Chan….
May God bless you and your family…..
Jason Harvey
My condolences to you and your family. Your grandma looks like sweet person.
Hi Patric,
My condolences to you and your family. I was really moved by your words and the song you were listening to. Your Grandma must be very happy to have someone who love her so much.
Thanks for the post. It makes us realise how much we should cherish those that we love while they are still with us.
God bless!
Paul Pang
Hi Patric,
I am sorry to hear of your Grandma’s passing, and yet, we all know our time will come and that her years here were well spent, as she instilled in you a deep and abiding love of family and humanity, which you have already begun following in her footsteps. The music you chose is beautiful and made your letter all the more meaningful as I read it. I fought the tears, but could not swallow the lump in my throat. I’m glad you had such a wonderful relationship with your Grandma, as not enough people are ever that lucky. I feel very privileged to know you and study with you. Your kindness comes through in all you do. I think she is very proud of you.
Blessings,
Roberta
Hi Patric;
I cried when I read your letter. Patric it was very heart felt letter and the love you have for your Grandmother came through loud and clear. I feel very sad for your lose of your Grandmother but I’m 100% certain that she took you with her in her heart. I am also certain that she will remain in your heart for all eternity.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during your time of lose.
Love from Tucson,
Donna
Hi Patric
I remember my grandma used to call me on my cellphone too.
Reading your post brought back those memories that we had shared together.
Take care…
Indeed we must make ample opportunity of the time we have to share with our loved ones.
We must take time to listen… take time to help out… take time to make a phone call…
I could hear the joy in my granny, my mum’s voice even though it might just be a mundane “How’s your day today?”
Thanks, Patric for your sharing and yes, our grannies are watching over us from heaven.
Patric,
I am so sorry for your loss. I truly will keep you and your family in my prayers. As we speak, my Grandma is living with me…she has Alzheimers. It is terrible. I can definitely identify with that sadness of her not “knowing” me in anymore. She helped raise me and now she thinks of me as a stranger. Anyway, just wanted to say I am sorry and that I hope you will be brought comfort and peace during this hard time.
Shanda Mullins
i feel sorry for loss your gm, hope you will well soon…
Dear Patric,
My deepest condolence on your loss.
To all the readers out there, one of the most important thing that we must do, is to love and to show our gratitude through our actions, words that we choose when we are with our love ones….especially our Parents. My challenge to all of you is to say these words to your parents ” I love you MOM and Dad for raising me up and bringing so much joy and happiness in my life. Thank you ” and then give them a real “big hug”…and do it constantly and don’t wait till its too late.
regards,
Keith
http://www.optionmastery.wordpress.com
lovely grandma. Please accept my condolences, and may she rest in perfect peace
Hi. Patric,
My condolence to you and your family and love ones.
Realistically speaking life must go on but on the another hand I believe your grandmother is also happy to go as her calling or duty on this earth has been done to her best ability.
May she rest in peace.
God bless you.
R.L.
Hi,
Thank you for your wishes. Each time I read one, I felt happier how much you show your concern towards Grandma and me.
To those who shed tears and felt the feeling of losing someone you love, I’m touched with your heartful feeling.
Again, I like to say thank you for being ‘here’.
Best regards,
Patric Chan
P.S: If Grandma’s around, she would be excited to see this page of hers because she doesn’t know computer or internet at all.
Hi Patric,
I feel for you now that your grandmother passed away.
I lost my grandmother 18 years ago and I still miss her even after all these years.
We were very fortunate to have had these beautiful women in our lives and all we can do now is to treasure the priceless memories we have that nobody can take away from us.
Please pass my condolances to your family ,
Sending you love and gentle thoughts,
Olivia
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Hi Patric,
Sorry to hear that your grandma just passed away. My condolence to you and your family.
God bless & take care!
Sorry to hear of your Grandma’s passing, my friend.
She’ll remain alive and well in your heart and memories forever.
God bless,
Mike
Heartfelt Condolences Chan. I know it is going to difficult for you to come to terms with the reality that she is no more, for days to come. Only time will heal. I pray to Universe
to give you strength to bear the loss. I understand your feelings now as I too had the same experience, not long ago.
Shyam
Hi Patrick,
It is indeed a physical lost but it is a spiritual gain for the Lord.
A physical death is just a step to eternal life. I encourage you to look into the spiritualman level in operating your natural life. You will find so much peace in the natural life if you do this.
Just as you have said, we might lose our memory but in the spiritman level, we are always a thought away and always assured that “something good is going to happen” in every moment.
My younger sister just shared her eternal life with our Lord just last 2 weeks ago.. And long before she go, she has assured me that she were able fulfill the purpose of her life, and that is to be part of saving a soul of another close-relative for the Lord.
Be strong in the Lord and the joy of the Lord is our strength. And to save a soul makes the angels rejoice in heaven. Finally, to trust and obey HIS Word is the joy of the Lord.
Have a blessed day, always.
bro.Victor
Hello Patric,
I am sorry about your Grandma. I am sure the inspiration left by your Grandma will last forever.
Sudhir
Hi Patrick, I really admire when you say things directly from someone’s heart. It’s a sign that you also speaks from the heart.
My deep condolence to you and your love ones… May God bless you always and forever.
Becca
Hi patric please take heart, and be strong as before.
hey patric,
thank you for sharing her with us…
Grace & Peace be with you always,
willie j smith
Hi Patric
Take heart. .Grandma had a fulfilled life and indeed has gone to rest. You did what was expected of you and Grandma prayers will continue to be with you.
God will comfort you and your loved ones for this loss.
Hi Patric,
I just want to say I am so sorry about your Granmothers passing.
She has such a beautiful smile and warm loving eyes.
I know you are missing her.
I appreciate your efforts in moving forward. That is always a saving grace for me.
Keep in peace and love,
Donna
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Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where
there is no noise, trouble or hard work.
It means to be in the midst of those things
and still be calm in your heart. ”
Be Happy. She has gone to a peaceful place but she had imprinted in your mind and heart her love and kindness that remains a part of you. Memories of her cannot be deleted from your memory unless you met “A D”.
This is a stage that everyone or every family has to go through.
… have to move forward.
Thanks.
My condolence to you and your family. I believe your grandma is gladful to have you as her grandson.
Dear Patric Chan,
Some years ago, when I was first on your list, you and I exchanged e-mails about our mutual experiences with our amazing grandmothers.
We are, I think, both to be envied for our good fortune in having had such remarkable, loving, generous and wise people to care for us. I know exactly what it feels like to lose that great source of strength, wisdom and love, and I extend my heartfelt condolences to you and your family at this sad time.
I am sure that their comfort and support will be of the greatest help to you in your loss, and I send too messages of support and comfort to help you bear these dark days.
Warmest regards,
Philippa Steel
Dear Patric,
Everyday we live is a blessing to be treasured. The Bible talks about life as “being but a vapor”. Some folks lives are cut short and never pass their teens.
Your grandma, had a long life. Wealth is not a necessary element for a good life. Who we are and the people we touch is.
It is sad that many folks only leave a dash between their birth and their passing. They missed the pleasure of helping others.
If your grandma touched you therefore, her life had meaning. She blessed you as well as you blessed her.
Grieve! It’s part of the natural closure. Her good memories will always be there.
You must continue to do your gifting. Helping other folks become prosperous is a quality few possess. You are a mentor. Do your thing. Bless all you meet!
In sympathy,
Ernie
My deepest condolence to you & family. Losing love ones is never easy, but she will still remain in your heart & memory. You can never fully recover from such pain, so when some thing like this happen, take your time for grieving. At the same time just remember there are still others depends on you to be strong so they will also can feel some relief & peace.
Life must goes on, all the living have to go trough death. It’s the cycle of life. The point of being a life is live your life to the fullest & make no regrets in life! Take this as a part of many challenges in life. Life with out challenges, is not life at all.
And don’t lose faith, always say your prayer sincerely. He will answer your prayers, bcoz only Him knows what best for you, even when you feel nothing good is happening.
Regards,
Dura Ian
hie Patrik,
Just want to extend my hearty sympathies for your grandmothers passing,
may her SOUL rest in eternal peace.
All the best,
kenneth chipeta
I’m so sad for you Patric in your loss.
But be happy in the knowledge that your grandma is still with you though now she’s reborn into the light and is well, healthy, happy and whole in a way we can only dream of.
Hi Patric,
I was shocked to hear the news and I’m sure you did not expect your grandma to go so soon.
I hope you are strong in this tough time, my friend. My condolences to you and your family. Your grandma’s passing will make us appreciate more of our loved ones and friends around us. You are a good grandson and you know that she knew that too. Be strong because that’s what she wanted you to be!
Zamri
ps. I’ll always remember your advice to spend more quality time with our loved ones as much as we can.
Patric,
My sincere and heartfelt prayers are with you. I know how EXACTLY how you are feeling because my beloved mother passed April 17, 2009 at the age of 87. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 liver cancer on February 5, 2009 and was gone in about 10 weeks. My adult children and nieces and nephews loved their grandma just as you loved yours so I know they can empathize and sympathize with you during this difficult time.
I don’t know what your spiritual beliefs are but rest assured your beloved grandmother is not dead. She has merely transitioned to her eternal home where there is no dementia, pain or good bye. You will see her again.
Honor her by continuing your great work and serving others.
Again, I am praying for you and your family. God, spirit (or whatever you call your higher power) will see you through this, make you strong again and give you peace. I know this from experience.
Take care of yourself.
Carmin
Chan
I can not say that sorry.
No, because i know that you mother has left the mortal body to immortal.
So it is easy for you to communicate with you mother very easily than she has been in the fore scribed body.
Please, keep calm and meditate more so as not your mother to be far away from you.
I HOPE WE SHALL IN ONE WORLD WITH THE SAINTS.
Samuel.
Hi,
I’m sorry to hear the news. But from the photos, I think grandma is an optimistic person. She’s always smiling. It’s a comfort that she left without pain. And at least, when she was in this world, she was surrounded by love. Perhaps, I should say she “is” instead of “was”.
I pray that grandma is happy with god and patric is happily living in this world.
Patric,
You and your family are in my prayers.
Grandmothers are very special people, and yours was extra special.
I am sure she is in a beautiful place with people she loves near her.
And she will watch over you and your family for always.
I miss my Grandma everyday, she was very special to me.
One day, I will see her again.
All my best,
Greg
You obviously had a very close and loving relationship with your Grandmother. Clearly a very special lady. It is very touching to see somebody opening up their heart in front of so many people at a moment of such great emotion.
I was very close to my own grandmother too who passed away in 1988 just 6 weeks before my first daughter was born. It was always a great regret of mine that she didn\’t get to see her.
You have a very emotionally difficult few days ahead of you. But you will find as I did that it soon passes and you will be left with all the happy memories of the wonderful times you spent in her company. Truly the most precious things in life are family and friends and all your shared joy and happiness together. Money cannot buy that and you have been very lucky to have your loving Grandmother around until now.
Your family are clearly very caring of eachother which is also very precious. Look after yourself and all those close to you through the grief and emotion. It will only bring you closer.
I do hope you are all not too upset and can celebrate your Grandmothers life for all the joy it brought you.
best wishes
George
Hey man really sorry abt your granny. My condolences to you and your family.
P.S Can we have the title of this music? It was very moving
listening and reading what u had typed.
Condolence to you
Hi Patric
how touchy, I am sure your Grandma will very happy to see YOU (such a lovely grandson) from above.
Dear Patric;
Sorry for your loss and accept my condolecense to you and your family.
Regards;
nguyen